When you hear about children killing other children, you may think, "I don't know a single child who could do such a thing."
What is anger?
Anger is an intense emotional state of displeasure with someone or something
Related Words: - aggravation, annoyance, exasperation, irritation, vexation; animosity, antagonism, antipathy, bile, bitterness, contempt, enmity, grudge, hostility, rancor; envy, jaundice, jealousy, pique, resentment; malevolence, malice, spite, venom, virulence, vitriol; belligerence, contentiousness, contrariness, disputatiousness, orneriness, pugnacity, querulousness; blowup, flare-up, outburst; dander, dudgeon, huff, pet, rise, ruffle, temper; delirium, heat, passion, warmth
Anger in children is normal. It is the expression of anger, rather than the anger itself, that becomes problematic. This is where anger management tips come in. They are a set of tools to help youngsters recognize symptoms of their anxiety, stand back and look at their reactions objectively so that they can choose more acceptable ways to express their emotions.
Too often the daily news confirms that children and teens can be violent, even deadly. As parents, families, teachers and members of the community, what can we do to help children cope with angry feelings--from frustration to rage?
Some young people turn to violence, because they do not see other ways to endure what they are feeling at that moment. They may not anticipate the repercussions of their violence.
How do Teenagers Express Anger?
Some of the signs that your teen may be struggling with emotional issues include the following:
• Behavior or academic trouble at school,
• Problems in relationships with family and friends,
• Isolation and withdrawal from family and friends,
• Suicidal thoughts and tendencies.
Anger that is explicit and explosive is more easily detected. Signs that your child may be getting too angry include things such as a racing heart and fast pulse, fast breathing, hyperventilation (when breathing is so fast, your teenager has trouble catching his or her breath), stiffened muscles, and a rise in temperature.
These symptoms, if recurrent and unresolved, can eventually lead to heart disease, high blood pressure, lower back pain and stomach problems such as ulcers and acid reflux.
If your child is exhibiting problems with anger management, there are several things you can do to help get him or her back in control.
These tips may help when you recognize a child who is withdrawing or exploding over everyday frustrations:
• Listen to what the child is saying about his or her feelings and be willing to talk about any subject. Young people today are dealing with adult problems such as love, sex, relationships, failure and rejection. Unfortunately, their minds and bodies simply are not ready for these stresses.
• Provide comfort and assurance. Tell the child that you care about his or her problems. Show confidence in his or her ability to tackle life's ups and downs.
• Tell the child that everyone experiences anger. Tell him or her about the last time you felt really angry and how you dealt with that anger in a positive way.
• Encourage the child to shift gears-to spend some time doing things he or she really likes to do-playing sports, , or reading a book. A different activity can refocus thoughts and help alleviate some of the angry feelings.
• Teach basic problem-solving skills. When upsetting situations arise, the child who has practiced these skills will be more likely to think through the consequences of different actions and will, ultimately, make a better choice than violence.
• Look at how you handle your own anger. Are you setting a good example? Would you want to be imitated by a child who admires you?
• Acknowledge good behavior. When a child deals with his or her anger in a positive way, praise the positive choice. Take every opportunity to reinforce strengths. Build the child’s awareness of his or her own talents and abilities.
If none of these approaches seems to work, and the child stays angry or withdrawn for a long time, seek help. Talk to your family doctor or pediatrician. Together, you may decide that your child and family need help from someone with more mental health training.
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