KEEPING YOUR HOUSE FOR GREATER SAFETY

One great benefit of having an orderly home is that children learn this while they are growing up and under their parents’ influence. It’s a skill that can be applied as they move on to their teenage years during high school and then make the transitions to college and, ultimately, their own homes, whether they live alone, with friends, or with their own families.


Underlying our culture is a mentality concerning the collection and retention of material possessions. Because many of us either lived through or are children of people who lived through the Great Depression, we have been schooled in the practice of stockpiling possessions, and, in many cases, retaining items whether or not they are useful or necessary.

With this in mind, what are concerned parents to do? After all, families have so much to organize, as every member of the family has both visible and non-visible aspects of their lives to be organized. The visible objects may be easier to deal with, simply because they are visible; these are clothing, work/school supplies, hobbies, toys, and food. But that is not all! Each member of the family also has responsibilities, relationships both inside and outside of the home, and limitations on their time and skills. Mix these variables together, and you have the equivalent of a juggling act that takes many years of practice to keep moving smoothly.

The first step to take when you want to get your family organized for safety is to purge what is no longer useful.

Things that you are not using are in the way! These items form a barrier between your family members and their successful lives. Many children have too many possessions crammed into their closets, drawers, and all over their rooms. Time spent working with the family to weed out unwanted and unneeded excess in their rooms is productive. Your children probably have more books, clothing, and toys than they need or want, so help them to sort through it all.

One way to appeal to children to weed out such articles is to explain that there are other people who need and can use what they don’t: children who have no books of their own, very few toys, or a limited selection of clothing from which to choose.

There are three major benefits of this activity.

1. Your child has a sense of contributing to another person.

2. This frees up some space for navigating more freely in his own room.

3. You teach the lesson that it is all right to get rid of things.

Most of us are so busy with our lives that we don’t take the time to implement this step. Make and keep an appointment with yourselves to accomplish this task. Perhaps you can devote the first day of a vacation to the effort; the approach of a child’s birthday could be a benchmark you will use; the beginning or end of a school year is an ideal time. When you do it is not nearly as important as that you do it!


1. Design the system that fits your own life
There is not a right or wrong way to be organized in your home. Determining how to get organized takes some thought, though. What are the activities in which your family members are involved? By placing the toys, games, craft and art supplies, sports equipment, and homework resources at or near the places where they are used, you will save yourself from a lot of the extra effort created by having to pick up the trails of toy parts, game pieces, crochet hooks, sneakers, and markers that run throughout the house.

2. Containers are key
Here’s a concept to which many people are finally catching on: place all parts of activities into containers. The see-through plastic variety is particularly useful, as you and your children will be able to see the contents before you even move the container from its location. The proper containers are also helpful in developing responsibility in young children. Assign them with the task of cleaning up when they have completed their time with the activity. It is easy for them to see on their own if they have accomplished the task or not: either all the parts are in the container or they are not!
3. Use labels
Labeling is a tool with two uses for families, as labels promote literacy as well as organization. Most important in the process of labeling is that the children be involved. That way, they get to use the words that are most meaningful to them, which is an important part in making this a system that will be useful for them. For young children who cannot yet read, you may either draw or cut out pictures; this is a pre-reading skill because you teach that there is a relationship between a symbol and its meaning. There’s help if you need it!



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What Makes for a Great Parent?

A GREAT PARENT:-

• Shows a child unconditional love.



• Does not expect the child to be the parent, and does not inflict own needs on the child at the expense of the child's needs.


• Does not subtly sabotage a child's efforts to learn, mature and excel.


• Allows a child to be less than perfect.


• Forgives mistakes, and teaches a child how to forgive him or herself. Acknowledges own mistakes and apologizes for them.


• Does not give up on a child or teen.


• Loves and accepts a child who walks a different path.


• Is not threatened by a child's independence, happiness, dreams, individuality, achievements, or occasional rebellion.


• Shows a child consistent and loving discipline.


• Is supportive, excited and interested in what the child is doing (and wants to do).


• Teaches a child how to be angry or frustrated in helpful, constructive ways.


• Teaches a child how to communicate in constructive, loving ways.


• Teaches a child how to deal with fear.


• Knows that the child's safety and well-being comes first. Does hard things if it will help the family.


• Stands up for a child. Protects the child from dangerous and harmful situations or people.


• Is willing to learn from others -- including the child.


• Teaches a child how to protect and take care of him or herself (financially, physically, emotionally).


• Sets a good example in life, love, happiness, morality, friendships and daily habits.


• Shows a spouse or partner unconditional (but not self-abusive) love -- and lets the child see it.


• Allows a child to dream big dreams.


• Takes care of self.


• Makes fun and laughter regular daily activities.


• Teaches a child how to see the lighter side of life.


• Teaches a child that it's OK to be happy, even if someone else isn't.


• Teaches a child to hope, and also to trust in him or herself.


• Keeps all promises to a child.


• Makes all the necessary (and some unnecessary) personal sacrifices.


• Teaches a child how to resolve problems, and how to celebrate triumphs.


• Praises child frequently and sincerely.


• Is proud of child, and tells child so.


• Encourages good behavior and discourages bad behavior. Listens to child's explanation, and allows child to suffer (non-hurtful) consequences.


• Is a good listener.


• Offers advice without destructive criticism.


• Discusses things with child honestly and openly. Allows child to disagree in age-appropriate ways.


• Knows when to let go of a situation that can't be resolved.


• Teaches a child how to be positive and enthusiastic.


• Knows when to let a child become an adult.


• Doesn't ever stop trying to become a better parent.


 
Wishing you all Happy Parenting!!!!!